Thursday, December 28, 2017
Wednesday, December 27, 2017
Hoop Fa Loop
Clair has come up with a new word that I absolutely love - HoopFaLoop. It's what happens when a roller coaster has an upside-down loop in it. She got a roller coaster maker for Christmas, so this word has been used a lot this week by her and Ellie. It makes me smile!
A very busy fall
Another two months has gone by without me writing anything. I am always disappointed in myself when this happens. It doesn't mean that there are not memories I wish to preserve forever, it only means that life has been so busy that I haven't had time to breath more less think about writing.
Halloween was another success. The bigger kids were missing the old neighborhood a lot and wishing we would go back there initially, but they ended up meeting up with people in the new neighborhood and having fun. Ellie was a spirit, and wanted to be something much more gruesome. Max was a ninja again, this time a real one instead of a Ninjago one. Clair was Poppy Troll from the recent movie and was adorable. Max and Ellie ran around fast with friends and were hard to keep up with. Clair took her time. She even enjoyed riding between houses in the stroller. I have a feeling that will be my last stroller Halloween.
November proved busy with work trips, a family trip to Disney and Ellie turning 10. I've now been a parent for a decade, one quarter of my life. However, as hard as that is to believe, life pre-parent feels extremely distant. My work trip to London in November was a success at home and abroad. I won an industry award and David and the kids did great without me at home.
The family trip to Disney was compliments of Great Grandpa and Gramma to celebrate his life with the grandkids. Katie and her crew went. Connie also joined us a bit as well. It was a lot of work and the kids really had a good time. I did manage to capture some photos from that event. I will attach them at the bottom. Each kid had special things they enjoyed and moments of frustration, as did the adults. Disney is hard work, but I am thankful for the time we had.
I rang in December with a 10 day trip to London for work. This was the longest I had been away from the kids. I was nervous, but we all really did well. David and the kids were champs at home. Clair really let me know she missed me and was unhappy with me. I did read her a story over facetime and that helped one evening. I came home better rested then I've been in a decade. The kids had a good week with Daddy and they had established some of their own more relaxed routines.
Once back home I rushed to prepare for Christmas in the midst of all the activities. Max is doing baskeyball this fall. He is playing on a team. He's not loving it, but we want him to have the ability to play a sport if he wants to. It's such an important social skill in the US and especially for boys. I hold hope he will pick something up. Max has also recently started drum lessons and is doing very well with them.
Ellie is still taking Piano lessons, she has also joined the chorus at the school and is taking saxophone lessons at school as well. Her music inclination and skill continues to grow. It has hit a hiccup when her piano teacher left the school and she has had to find a new one. We are on our third one and I'm hoping she can pick back up with Allie, but we both miss Ms. Nancy. She had a way with Ellie and she was really pushing through things. Ellie is now trying to learn Pachabell's Canon in G. It'ws not an easy song and she is working hard at it. She still loves to play something daily and I'm so happy to see her picking up singing again. Her holiday concert at school was cute. Thankfully Grannie was in town to see it as well.
This fall Ellie also entered two extra contests at school with success. She entered the art contest, reflections. Her work was one selected to be sent off to the county to participate in the broader context. We are waiting to hear back about that. She also entered a poem and a short story into a writing context at the school. Her short story one first place in the school and was sent out to the county contest. It was really amazing. She writes with such detail and description. She really does excel in writing and reading.
Clair has also started doing dance on Monday afternoon's. She is in preschool 3 days a week and just loves going to class and being busy. She is enjoying her dance class which is both tap and ballet. This is something she's wanted to try for a while. it's a small class and she's picking up a lot. I enjoyed parent observation day with her a week ago. She kept her eye on me during her show to ensure I was watching her at all times. We went out to McDonald's for cheeseburgers after the show to celebrate and have a special lunch together. She is such a joy to spend time with at this age. She tells me often I'm the best! We enjoy each other a lot at this stage in our lives.
This brings us to Christmas. Ellie is 10. Max is 7. Clair is 4 and a half, which matters at this age.
Ellie had gotten what she wanted for her birthday, so her Christmas list was not too elaborate. She wanted Harry Potter stuff, Rocks and squishies. Max wanted a lot of Pokemon cards and Ninja-go stuff, along with about half of everything else he saw in the toy magazines we had him look through. Clair was the same; everything looks like fun and she wants it, but especially Peppa Pig, which is still her favorite in the whole world.
They all got a lot of stuff. We spent 4 hours in a present opening marathon on Christmas morning. Grannie has joined us for Christmas for the first time since Max was born. The kids have loved having her here. I hope that as they age they can continue to appreciate all she does for them and really spending time with her.
Katie and the kids have joined us for the week. they will be at mom's but we will get to spend time with them. I have 5 more days off before returning to work. I'm still stressed out a bit, but not as much as I am when working. I hope that during 2018 I can continue to spend time with the kids and find a level of peace and sanity that allows me to be the mom they need. This is my continual wish and hope.
Ellie is brilliant, athletic, can be so helpful, a good cook, an artist, great musician, and generally good at everything she tries. Max is funny, he can build anything, he has so much energy, he plays great with Clair and really loves interacting with other people. They are both doing very well in school this year. Ellie's teacher is harder on her then any she has had, and she's still rocking it. Max's teacher really is great for him this year. She appreciates what he is good at and also wants him to focus on the couple things that will go a long way in helping make life better. I am so thankful for Miss Smith this year.
Clair is busy, she knows what she wants and doesn't usually stop until she gets it, she is smart and focused on counting, adding and spelling these days. She's very creative and spends a lot of time making up elaborate stories with her various dolls, houses, cars, and legos.
As I move into the new year, I will do my best to keep this blog up to date. I love to write the stories down and see them printed out each year. The yearly prints keep getting shorter and shorter, but life keeps getting equally more complex. The kids are a hoot and the loves of my life!
Halloween was another success. The bigger kids were missing the old neighborhood a lot and wishing we would go back there initially, but they ended up meeting up with people in the new neighborhood and having fun. Ellie was a spirit, and wanted to be something much more gruesome. Max was a ninja again, this time a real one instead of a Ninjago one. Clair was Poppy Troll from the recent movie and was adorable. Max and Ellie ran around fast with friends and were hard to keep up with. Clair took her time. She even enjoyed riding between houses in the stroller. I have a feeling that will be my last stroller Halloween.
November proved busy with work trips, a family trip to Disney and Ellie turning 10. I've now been a parent for a decade, one quarter of my life. However, as hard as that is to believe, life pre-parent feels extremely distant. My work trip to London in November was a success at home and abroad. I won an industry award and David and the kids did great without me at home.
The family trip to Disney was compliments of Great Grandpa and Gramma to celebrate his life with the grandkids. Katie and her crew went. Connie also joined us a bit as well. It was a lot of work and the kids really had a good time. I did manage to capture some photos from that event. I will attach them at the bottom. Each kid had special things they enjoyed and moments of frustration, as did the adults. Disney is hard work, but I am thankful for the time we had.
I rang in December with a 10 day trip to London for work. This was the longest I had been away from the kids. I was nervous, but we all really did well. David and the kids were champs at home. Clair really let me know she missed me and was unhappy with me. I did read her a story over facetime and that helped one evening. I came home better rested then I've been in a decade. The kids had a good week with Daddy and they had established some of their own more relaxed routines.
Once back home I rushed to prepare for Christmas in the midst of all the activities. Max is doing baskeyball this fall. He is playing on a team. He's not loving it, but we want him to have the ability to play a sport if he wants to. It's such an important social skill in the US and especially for boys. I hold hope he will pick something up. Max has also recently started drum lessons and is doing very well with them.
Ellie is still taking Piano lessons, she has also joined the chorus at the school and is taking saxophone lessons at school as well. Her music inclination and skill continues to grow. It has hit a hiccup when her piano teacher left the school and she has had to find a new one. We are on our third one and I'm hoping she can pick back up with Allie, but we both miss Ms. Nancy. She had a way with Ellie and she was really pushing through things. Ellie is now trying to learn Pachabell's Canon in G. It'ws not an easy song and she is working hard at it. She still loves to play something daily and I'm so happy to see her picking up singing again. Her holiday concert at school was cute. Thankfully Grannie was in town to see it as well.
This fall Ellie also entered two extra contests at school with success. She entered the art contest, reflections. Her work was one selected to be sent off to the county to participate in the broader context. We are waiting to hear back about that. She also entered a poem and a short story into a writing context at the school. Her short story one first place in the school and was sent out to the county contest. It was really amazing. She writes with such detail and description. She really does excel in writing and reading.
Clair has also started doing dance on Monday afternoon's. She is in preschool 3 days a week and just loves going to class and being busy. She is enjoying her dance class which is both tap and ballet. This is something she's wanted to try for a while. it's a small class and she's picking up a lot. I enjoyed parent observation day with her a week ago. She kept her eye on me during her show to ensure I was watching her at all times. We went out to McDonald's for cheeseburgers after the show to celebrate and have a special lunch together. She is such a joy to spend time with at this age. She tells me often I'm the best! We enjoy each other a lot at this stage in our lives.
This brings us to Christmas. Ellie is 10. Max is 7. Clair is 4 and a half, which matters at this age.
Ellie had gotten what she wanted for her birthday, so her Christmas list was not too elaborate. She wanted Harry Potter stuff, Rocks and squishies. Max wanted a lot of Pokemon cards and Ninja-go stuff, along with about half of everything else he saw in the toy magazines we had him look through. Clair was the same; everything looks like fun and she wants it, but especially Peppa Pig, which is still her favorite in the whole world.
They all got a lot of stuff. We spent 4 hours in a present opening marathon on Christmas morning. Grannie has joined us for Christmas for the first time since Max was born. The kids have loved having her here. I hope that as they age they can continue to appreciate all she does for them and really spending time with her.
Katie and the kids have joined us for the week. they will be at mom's but we will get to spend time with them. I have 5 more days off before returning to work. I'm still stressed out a bit, but not as much as I am when working. I hope that during 2018 I can continue to spend time with the kids and find a level of peace and sanity that allows me to be the mom they need. This is my continual wish and hope.
Ellie is brilliant, athletic, can be so helpful, a good cook, an artist, great musician, and generally good at everything she tries. Max is funny, he can build anything, he has so much energy, he plays great with Clair and really loves interacting with other people. They are both doing very well in school this year. Ellie's teacher is harder on her then any she has had, and she's still rocking it. Max's teacher really is great for him this year. She appreciates what he is good at and also wants him to focus on the couple things that will go a long way in helping make life better. I am so thankful for Miss Smith this year.
Clair is busy, she knows what she wants and doesn't usually stop until she gets it, she is smart and focused on counting, adding and spelling these days. She's very creative and spends a lot of time making up elaborate stories with her various dolls, houses, cars, and legos.
As I move into the new year, I will do my best to keep this blog up to date. I love to write the stories down and see them printed out each year. The yearly prints keep getting shorter and shorter, but life keeps getting equally more complex. The kids are a hoot and the loves of my life!
Wednesday, November 22, 2017
Birthday Celebration at Magic Kingdom
Ellie enjoyed celebrating her 10th birthday in Florida at the Magic Kingdom this year. It wasn't a traditional birthday and she didn't have a friend or separate family party this year. However, it was full of energy and excitement for our birthday girl.
We spent the day in Magic kingdom, which was Ellie's selection for her birthday. She road rides all day, including a favorite - space mountain. She got to have dinner with the characters and the Palace and she enjoyed a special delicious chocolate cake as well.
We stayed all evening and ended watching the fireworks while eating lollipops. I believe it was a magical day for her.
We spent the day in Magic kingdom, which was Ellie's selection for her birthday. She road rides all day, including a favorite - space mountain. She got to have dinner with the characters and the Palace and she enjoyed a special delicious chocolate cake as well.
We stayed all evening and ended watching the fireworks while eating lollipops. I believe it was a magical day for her.
Monday, October 9, 2017
Where is the nearest medical school
This morning Clair asked me how do doctors know if you
are sick with a cold or something else? I provided what I thought was a very
suitable expiration, the doctor looks at your ears and nose and throat, and
then listen to your chest to decide.
She responds with what are they looking for? At that
point I was in trouble because I knew she wanted more details than I could
really give her, so I told her that mommy wasn’t a doctor and didn’t know the
details. I told her that people go to medical school to learn this. She asked
how will I get to the nearest medical school? I explained there are some in
Washington and Baltimore which are about an hour away. She wanted to if she
could get there herself because she doesn’t know how to drive. I told her that
when she was old enough she would be able to get there herself. She asked where
their schools closer. I told her they were not but there were schools in New
York City that were really good too. She said she didn’t want to go to New York
City, she wanted to go nearby and learn to be a doctor. She asked what age do
you go to medical school.
She was really sitting there processing all of this and
thinking. This conversation went on for about five minutes before I change the
subject. I was truly amazed at the detail and thought she was putting into all
of this. She is only 4 1/2.
Later in the afternoon it came back up. She told me that
when she goes to medical school in a few years I will need to show her how to
drive there the first time and then she will be able to drive herself. But she
will come home to live with me every night.
Monday, October 2, 2017
So Much Love
We were sitting at dinner on our anniversary and Clair reached across the table, grabbed my hands with a big smile and tells me, "I just love to hug you so much because you are so warm, and so soft, and so cuddly, and you make me so happy!"
This just makes me so happy and pleased.
This comes after she spent the night snuggling me and snuggling me back as close as she could get, sometimes on top of me, all night long.
She is such as special little girl who knows my love language. She is a sunshine!
This just makes me so happy and pleased.
This comes after she spent the night snuggling me and snuggling me back as close as she could get, sometimes on top of me, all night long.
She is such as special little girl who knows my love language. She is a sunshine!
Thursday, September 7, 2017
I will never sing again
This evening during dinner prep time Clair was very mad at me because I wouldn't let her watch Peppa Pig or play a device. She thinks she should do this at every meal prep and I don't want that to be a given or her prime memory of childhood. I said No. She was not happy.
I tried to woo her to come up to the counter and listen to her toddler music and keep me company by drawing or something while i cooked. We can have a very nice evening when she does this. She loves to sing to her music!
Clair decided to be stubborn. When I turned the music on and started singing, she announced she will "Never sing again.Ever."
i suggested to her that perhaps kids sometimes make decisions like this that are not the best and maybe need to change.
3 songs in her favorite song comes on. The song is Skinny Marinky Dinky Dink. She loves this song. They sang it at school last year and it talks about love, it is a song that just makes Clair happy. We often sing it together for one another.
So I start singing away, waiting for her to join. I'm chopping sweet potatoes. Next thing I know Clair is crying, loudly, sobbing with pure sadness into a pillow on the couch. I stop what I'm doing, go over, pick her up and ask what's wrong. She's still sobbing uncontrollably. "I want to sing my favorite song, but i can't ever sing again."
I try to explain that she has the power to change her mind and cancel out that promise. I console her and keep singing to her, hoping to woo her into song with me. That doesn't work, but I ask her to remind me the hand movements that go with the song. At the very end she starts in. I can see she's getting into it, but the song ends. Here come the tears, again. "I didn't get to sing my favorite song and now it's over!" .... tears, tears, tears....
I explain again, this decision was hers and can easily be undone. It's not permanent. She can sing and love music and she will.
She is so sad that her favorite song is over.
Fast forward about 5 minutes, and I end up buying her favorite song on itunes so I can play it over and over. We sing through almost the whole dinner prep. She is smiling. She is happy. She is my Clair bear.
I Am A Sucker!
I love this girl so much. She is so full of emotion, thought and drama. She is going to be some force in this world as she spreads her wings to fly!
I tried to woo her to come up to the counter and listen to her toddler music and keep me company by drawing or something while i cooked. We can have a very nice evening when she does this. She loves to sing to her music!
Clair decided to be stubborn. When I turned the music on and started singing, she announced she will "Never sing again.Ever."
i suggested to her that perhaps kids sometimes make decisions like this that are not the best and maybe need to change.
3 songs in her favorite song comes on. The song is Skinny Marinky Dinky Dink. She loves this song. They sang it at school last year and it talks about love, it is a song that just makes Clair happy. We often sing it together for one another.
So I start singing away, waiting for her to join. I'm chopping sweet potatoes. Next thing I know Clair is crying, loudly, sobbing with pure sadness into a pillow on the couch. I stop what I'm doing, go over, pick her up and ask what's wrong. She's still sobbing uncontrollably. "I want to sing my favorite song, but i can't ever sing again."
I try to explain that she has the power to change her mind and cancel out that promise. I console her and keep singing to her, hoping to woo her into song with me. That doesn't work, but I ask her to remind me the hand movements that go with the song. At the very end she starts in. I can see she's getting into it, but the song ends. Here come the tears, again. "I didn't get to sing my favorite song and now it's over!" .... tears, tears, tears....
I explain again, this decision was hers and can easily be undone. It's not permanent. She can sing and love music and she will.
She is so sad that her favorite song is over.
Fast forward about 5 minutes, and I end up buying her favorite song on itunes so I can play it over and over. We sing through almost the whole dinner prep. She is smiling. She is happy. She is my Clair bear.
I Am A Sucker!
I love this girl so much. She is so full of emotion, thought and drama. She is going to be some force in this world as she spreads her wings to fly!
Monday, September 4, 2017
Ellie's Lemonade Stand give toys to shelter cats
Ellie and Erin did a couple of
lemonade stands this summer. It was part fun and part a financial endeavor for
Ellie I think. They made a total of about $16. Originally they were going to
donate a third to charity and in the end decided to use it all to buy materials
to make toys for cats to bring to the animal shelter. They spent a full day
making these toys. Friday they took them and personally delivered them. Ellie
was proud as she should be. They loved seeing the animals and wanted us to go
adopt the little one below.
Max has worked hard on his writing skills this summer
This summer I decided to
really have Max focus on his writing. The one skill he most needed to catch up
on. Since start of the summer I think he has come a really long way. I hope he
can keep it up and his second grade teacher will be proud. mommy sure is proud.
He spend about half an hour 4-5 days a week writing. His handwriting is much
neater and he's getting sentence form correct.
Fridays letter was one of his best ever; although he did strike a chord close to my heart with this one. I wish I was able to give him what he asks for here. I love my buddy.
Fridays letter was one of his best ever; although he did strike a chord close to my heart with this one. I wish I was able to give him what he asks for here. I love my buddy.
Clair Vonita: you have mail
A couple days ago Max and Clair started creating envelopes and putting little
notes or pictures in them. Then they are hand delivered. The first lot were
Peppa Pig of course. Today's lot was letters I was instructed to read to
her, only after she secretly slipped them to me under a closed door so they
could be "surprise mail."
Here's a photos of some of what I was lucky enough to receive from my creative determined and driven Clair bear.
Here's a photos of some of what I was lucky enough to receive from my creative determined and driven Clair bear.
Monday, August 21, 2017
Reflections from a quiet house
Yesterday morning we dropped Ellie, Max and Clair off at Gramma's for a sleepover. David and I met up with Rachelle and Donnie to enjoy some Maryland wineries. We proceeded to enjoy a nice relaxing evening locally. The kids were so excited for their sleepover and seemed to have a great time when I spoke with them. We were happy for the quiet time and the day out.
By bedtime though, I really missed them in this big quiet house. I wasn't quite sure what to do with myself. Before I went to bed, I really missed kissing their little faces. David admitted missing them too. This big house is too quiet without them.
The morning was more shock of a quiet house. No one came in to tell me what time it was (Max) or called me from their bed claiming they needed Mommy or they needed to go potty (Clair.) It was strange as I pulled myself up and wondered downstairs still in my PJs and turned on the Today Show for the first time in I'm not sure how long.
I enjoyed getting to focus on making myself a nice healthy breakfast. When I sat down to eat it at the table alone, I realized how much the chaos of the busy breakfast has become my norm. Of course it is nice to focus on myself for a day, but I am so grateful for the many years ahead of me where they will sit and eat with me. They will laugh, giggle, fight, make messes, and tell me how much they love me all in one big noisy morning routine.
I cleaned the kitchen and have generally felt an overwhelming amount of free time on my hands for a Monday morning at this point. I'm looking forward to the returning chaos later this morning. I'm sure they enjoyed their time with Gramma. I'm glad that they had it. I love that they spend time with my Mom. I appreciate that missing them allows me to appreciate them even more.
This afternoon we will attempt to appreciate the eclipse without the viewing glasses. I didn't manage to pay attention to this all soon enough to purchase the proper viewing glasses. David made viewing boxes with the kids this weekend. We will use them and watch the NASA video. Stumbling through their childhood, I hope they can appreciate the ups and downs of the success and failures we have had as parents raising them. I guess it's not failures, but sometimes we get it righter then others. Always, they are loved and appreciated. Looking forward to having them back tonight and tomorrow morning for many years of chaos to come!
By bedtime though, I really missed them in this big quiet house. I wasn't quite sure what to do with myself. Before I went to bed, I really missed kissing their little faces. David admitted missing them too. This big house is too quiet without them.
The morning was more shock of a quiet house. No one came in to tell me what time it was (Max) or called me from their bed claiming they needed Mommy or they needed to go potty (Clair.) It was strange as I pulled myself up and wondered downstairs still in my PJs and turned on the Today Show for the first time in I'm not sure how long.
I enjoyed getting to focus on making myself a nice healthy breakfast. When I sat down to eat it at the table alone, I realized how much the chaos of the busy breakfast has become my norm. Of course it is nice to focus on myself for a day, but I am so grateful for the many years ahead of me where they will sit and eat with me. They will laugh, giggle, fight, make messes, and tell me how much they love me all in one big noisy morning routine.
I cleaned the kitchen and have generally felt an overwhelming amount of free time on my hands for a Monday morning at this point. I'm looking forward to the returning chaos later this morning. I'm sure they enjoyed their time with Gramma. I'm glad that they had it. I love that they spend time with my Mom. I appreciate that missing them allows me to appreciate them even more.
This afternoon we will attempt to appreciate the eclipse without the viewing glasses. I didn't manage to pay attention to this all soon enough to purchase the proper viewing glasses. David made viewing boxes with the kids this weekend. We will use them and watch the NASA video. Stumbling through their childhood, I hope they can appreciate the ups and downs of the success and failures we have had as parents raising them. I guess it's not failures, but sometimes we get it righter then others. Always, they are loved and appreciated. Looking forward to having them back tonight and tomorrow morning for many years of chaos to come!
Tuesday, August 1, 2017
My little man lost his first tooth
Max has had lose front teeth for a few weeks now. He hasn't been interested in really pushing them coming out. Yesterday we had a dentist appointment and the hygienist really messed with those two teeth. At dinner, one finally got lose enough for him to get curious.
I hear Max and Ellie in the powder room together and there's some commotion. I ask what's going on and Max comes bouncing out with bloody lips and fingers and smiles. I realize he's trying to wiggle the tooth free and Ellie's cheering him on.
After a few minutes of persistence, Max proudly presents his tooth. He's got a cute little bloody grin doesn't he. No tears!
He proudly put the tooth under his pillow and the tooth fairy left him $7 for this first tooth he lost at 7. Boy, she pays high these days!
I hear Max and Ellie in the powder room together and there's some commotion. I ask what's going on and Max comes bouncing out with bloody lips and fingers and smiles. I realize he's trying to wiggle the tooth free and Ellie's cheering him on.
After a few minutes of persistence, Max proudly presents his tooth. He's got a cute little bloody grin doesn't he. No tears!
He proudly put the tooth under his pillow and the tooth fairy left him $7 for this first tooth he lost at 7. Boy, she pays high these days!
Listening to Ellie play piano
Ellie started Piano lessons in April this year. It's August and I'm impressed daily with how far she's come. She has quite natural talent for music; she always has. But she also really enjoys playing the piano. She goes into the piano almost after every meal each day. She works diligently and truly enjoys learning her songs. She's already through 1 full book and playing complex two handed songs. I'm really proud of her and can't wait to see where she takes this.
Sunday, July 16, 2017
Baby doll or sister
Clair really looks up to her sister and values spending time with her. Clair loves when Ellie lets her into her bedroom to play with either Ellie or Ellie's toys. Either mean it's a good day. Most of the time it's very joyous for them both, but every once in a while Clair tells me something Ellie has done that she didn't like. Ellie claims she wants to do it. I try to explain to Ellie Clair isn't her baby doll but a real person and she needs to respect her opinion.
A good example after half an hour of fun and games yesterday Clair comes into me to say that she couldn't get out of Ellie's room. Ellie was tickling her tummy with her hair and she didn't like it. Those silly girls.
Today, I find Clair sitting on the bathroom counter while Ellie is doing her hair. Clair wants her hair done but has decided she's done in this moment. They are a funny pair and I expect this is what sisters do. I hope that this bond continues to build even through the teen years when their age gap will feel so big to both of them, probably more Ellie.
Always be there for each other girls!
A good example after half an hour of fun and games yesterday Clair comes into me to say that she couldn't get out of Ellie's room. Ellie was tickling her tummy with her hair and she didn't like it. Those silly girls.
Today, I find Clair sitting on the bathroom counter while Ellie is doing her hair. Clair wants her hair done but has decided she's done in this moment. They are a funny pair and I expect this is what sisters do. I hope that this bond continues to build even through the teen years when their age gap will feel so big to both of them, probably more Ellie.
Always be there for each other girls!
Friday, July 14, 2017
To my children, I don't mean to be a part time Mom
Dear Ellie, Max and Clair,
Today we spent another day together where I tried to do my job as an employee and at the same time I tried to do my job as a Mommy. On these days, I fail at both. I hate failing. I prefer perfection. (You probably know this about me by the time you ever read this little set of memories.)
You guys deserved my all and I am sorry that I can not give it to you every day, every minute, all year long. I hope that when you grow and look back at your childhood that you never once question you are my world and even when I had to prioritize my job over what you wanted, I tried my best to still be the best Mom I could be.
Working is something I would give up if I could, but I can not while giving you all the things in life that I want to give you. Perhaps that is a bad choice; I will never know. But none the less, I wanted to be the best at both Mom and employee, because I do believe in always doing ones best. I hope that you will always do your best and forgive yourself when you fail to meet the standards you set for yourselves.
At times, I had to ask you each to leave my office and let me do my work. At times, I had to say No to something fun you asked me to do with you. At times, I had to ignore your giggles. At times, I had to write an email or have a phone call instead of talking to you or appreciating your latest artwork. At times, I didn't pay all the attention that I imagined that I would as a mother. I am sorry for this. I was not perfect. I do hope that you still know I love you, every day, always. I do hope that you know I love your giggles. I love your artwork. I love when you want to play with me. I love you more then my phone, my computer and my job. But I have to find a balance. Life is about balance. I hope that I am able to teach you about balance and model what a good balance could look like.
My job is stressful and sometimes you bare the brunt of the fact that all my patience were used up at work, being politically correct and solving tough problems. (This happens more then you sometimes.) I am sorry you didn't get all the patience you deserved. I am sorry that I wasn't able to be the perfect Mommy. And know this, I will love you the most, always, forever, even when you are grown.
During the last days of my life, I pray I can remember your cute little selves interrupting me at work, giggling, trying to use my exercise equipment, showing me your artwork, and coming in to see what I'm doing. You are my kiddos! You are my heart!
Today we spent another day together where I tried to do my job as an employee and at the same time I tried to do my job as a Mommy. On these days, I fail at both. I hate failing. I prefer perfection. (You probably know this about me by the time you ever read this little set of memories.)
You guys deserved my all and I am sorry that I can not give it to you every day, every minute, all year long. I hope that when you grow and look back at your childhood that you never once question you are my world and even when I had to prioritize my job over what you wanted, I tried my best to still be the best Mom I could be.
Working is something I would give up if I could, but I can not while giving you all the things in life that I want to give you. Perhaps that is a bad choice; I will never know. But none the less, I wanted to be the best at both Mom and employee, because I do believe in always doing ones best. I hope that you will always do your best and forgive yourself when you fail to meet the standards you set for yourselves.
At times, I had to ask you each to leave my office and let me do my work. At times, I had to say No to something fun you asked me to do with you. At times, I had to ignore your giggles. At times, I had to write an email or have a phone call instead of talking to you or appreciating your latest artwork. At times, I didn't pay all the attention that I imagined that I would as a mother. I am sorry for this. I was not perfect. I do hope that you still know I love you, every day, always. I do hope that you know I love your giggles. I love your artwork. I love when you want to play with me. I love you more then my phone, my computer and my job. But I have to find a balance. Life is about balance. I hope that I am able to teach you about balance and model what a good balance could look like.
My job is stressful and sometimes you bare the brunt of the fact that all my patience were used up at work, being politically correct and solving tough problems. (This happens more then you sometimes.) I am sorry you didn't get all the patience you deserved. I am sorry that I wasn't able to be the perfect Mommy. And know this, I will love you the most, always, forever, even when you are grown.
During the last days of my life, I pray I can remember your cute little selves interrupting me at work, giggling, trying to use my exercise equipment, showing me your artwork, and coming in to see what I'm doing. You are my kiddos! You are my heart!
Thursday, July 13, 2017
Time with Clair Bear
Clair is a talker. She loves to be with someone and truly enjoy their company. She likes to talk about anything and everything. She truly can say the most interesting things and carry a conversation better then many adults, including her Mamma.
Today we were on our way home from piano when Max and Ellie cheered that we had no plans this evening and would be at home. Clair on the other hand groans and declares she wants to "Go run errands with you Mommy."
I decided there were some things we could do and she cheered loudly. The plan was laid, the relaxing crew will stay home and chill - that's Ellie, David and Max, while Mommy and Clair will take on Walmart to get a birthday gift and some odds and ends. Everyone is pretty much thrilled with the division of labor around here.
We went shopping.
Once in the store Clair quickly went from shopping for a gift for her friend, to eyeing up many toys on the shelf for herself. I tried to keep her focused, but it was hard. We had some sad moments and some threats of losing desert. These were always followed with a deep look in the eyes from Clair, "I'm sorry Mommy." Followed then closely by, "Can I please have the new baby doll Mommy I really want it."
We managed to exit the toy eye and while picking up some essentials - Cheerios, Laundry soap, and cat food, Clair declares with a pout, "It's no fair, you get all this stuff and I can't have one doll."
I asked Clair, "What happens if Lady Grey doesn't have any food."
She looks at me seriously and thinks, then quietly replies (disappointed), " she will get sick?"
I say dramatically, "She will not only get sick, but she will die. What happens in Clair doesn't get a new doll?"
She again thinks, and sullenly responds, "Nothing."
I use this to explain what a priority is to Clair. We have the same discussion about Laundry soap, though no one dies (except perhaps a germaphobe like me).
As we move towards the register she is sullenly moving behind me. I try to pull her out of the way so a couple of ladies can pass us. I apologies and explain she is sulking because she can't have everything she wants and we are learning about priorities today. One of the ladies smiles and tells Clair we all struggle with that all the time and it's a hard lesson to learn.
As we go through the parking lot Clair asks again will we get our snow-cones, hoping i will accept her apologies for not pleasing me. I ask her if she has learned the lesson and remembers what really upset Mommy. She explains I was upset because she was asking for a doll for herself. I was impressed she got that take away and remind her that being a friend means bringing a gift to help someone celebrate their birthday. She says with those big eyes again, "I'm sorry Mommy. . . . (pause) . . . Can we get snow balls now please?"
And of course we go get snowballs.
While we wait for the snowballs I pick her up and hold her so we can watch them be made together. She snuggles her face smushed right up against mine and tells me how much she loves me. She wraps her little hands around my head and squeezes and holds me. She is so lovely. She shows love so openly and freely. I love this girl so much and the way she makes me see the world.
When we sit down to enjoy our snowballs I tell her that I used to come to this same place and get snowballs as a kid. She finds that funny. A few minutes later she asks me "Mommy, who do you love the most - Max, Ellie, Me or Daddy?"
I laughed and told her I loved everyone in my family with my whole heart and I could not pick someone i loved the best. She agrees that is an acceptable answer; I can love everyone the best! I decide to turn the question around on her to see the response, "Max..... Ellie ..... Daddy ..... and You! I love everyone the best in my family too!"
And so it goes as we chat through snow cones, with drips of sweet sugar juice requiring immediate attention in "catching" every so often. We enjoy the sunset and the summertime treat. I enjoy watching her. I marvel at how she is growing up, holding her own cup and not spilling it, smiling, and leading a lovely conversation all the time through. She is such an awesome little person. I can't believe she is my child! I want to call her mine, but she's not mine, she is the worlds! She is Clair Bear!
Today we were on our way home from piano when Max and Ellie cheered that we had no plans this evening and would be at home. Clair on the other hand groans and declares she wants to "Go run errands with you Mommy."
I decided there were some things we could do and she cheered loudly. The plan was laid, the relaxing crew will stay home and chill - that's Ellie, David and Max, while Mommy and Clair will take on Walmart to get a birthday gift and some odds and ends. Everyone is pretty much thrilled with the division of labor around here.
We went shopping.
Once in the store Clair quickly went from shopping for a gift for her friend, to eyeing up many toys on the shelf for herself. I tried to keep her focused, but it was hard. We had some sad moments and some threats of losing desert. These were always followed with a deep look in the eyes from Clair, "I'm sorry Mommy." Followed then closely by, "Can I please have the new baby doll Mommy I really want it."
We managed to exit the toy eye and while picking up some essentials - Cheerios, Laundry soap, and cat food, Clair declares with a pout, "It's no fair, you get all this stuff and I can't have one doll."
I asked Clair, "What happens if Lady Grey doesn't have any food."
She looks at me seriously and thinks, then quietly replies (disappointed), " she will get sick?"
I say dramatically, "She will not only get sick, but she will die. What happens in Clair doesn't get a new doll?"
She again thinks, and sullenly responds, "Nothing."
I use this to explain what a priority is to Clair. We have the same discussion about Laundry soap, though no one dies (except perhaps a germaphobe like me).
As we move towards the register she is sullenly moving behind me. I try to pull her out of the way so a couple of ladies can pass us. I apologies and explain she is sulking because she can't have everything she wants and we are learning about priorities today. One of the ladies smiles and tells Clair we all struggle with that all the time and it's a hard lesson to learn.
As we go through the parking lot Clair asks again will we get our snow-cones, hoping i will accept her apologies for not pleasing me. I ask her if she has learned the lesson and remembers what really upset Mommy. She explains I was upset because she was asking for a doll for herself. I was impressed she got that take away and remind her that being a friend means bringing a gift to help someone celebrate their birthday. She says with those big eyes again, "I'm sorry Mommy. . . . (pause) . . . Can we get snow balls now please?"
And of course we go get snowballs.
While we wait for the snowballs I pick her up and hold her so we can watch them be made together. She snuggles her face smushed right up against mine and tells me how much she loves me. She wraps her little hands around my head and squeezes and holds me. She is so lovely. She shows love so openly and freely. I love this girl so much and the way she makes me see the world.
When we sit down to enjoy our snowballs I tell her that I used to come to this same place and get snowballs as a kid. She finds that funny. A few minutes later she asks me "Mommy, who do you love the most - Max, Ellie, Me or Daddy?"
I laughed and told her I loved everyone in my family with my whole heart and I could not pick someone i loved the best. She agrees that is an acceptable answer; I can love everyone the best! I decide to turn the question around on her to see the response, "Max..... Ellie ..... Daddy ..... and You! I love everyone the best in my family too!"
And so it goes as we chat through snow cones, with drips of sweet sugar juice requiring immediate attention in "catching" every so often. We enjoy the sunset and the summertime treat. I enjoy watching her. I marvel at how she is growing up, holding her own cup and not spilling it, smiling, and leading a lovely conversation all the time through. She is such an awesome little person. I can't believe she is my child! I want to call her mine, but she's not mine, she is the worlds! She is Clair Bear!
Wednesday, July 12, 2017
Max gets glasses
I've known for a while that Max needed glasses. I've put this off because he is a young boy and glasses are a big responsibility. For several years the doctors agree to the watch and wait approach, but now, this summer, it's time to get him the glasses. He is excited. We picked out the glasses and waited a week for them to come in.
He kept asking when they would arrive. I on the other hand was not looking forward to him getting the glasses. I was not looking forward to the way they change my sweet boy's face. Glasses age a person and make a person look different to me.
When I got the call they were in I told Max they were in and we could go pick them up sometime. He asked if we could go that day. I asked him why he was so anxious to get them. His response was so innocent, sweet and pure, "Mommy, I know I can see better and I want to be able to do that. That's why I want my glasses."
Okay then, let's go get them. With that response, I couldn't delay. We took a family journey to get him his new specs! He was so excited. I loved watching him trying them on for the first time. The look in his eyes as he enjoys this new vision is really awesome. He started to have some fun with them as well. About a week later, he's now getting mostly adjusted. We have some organization with the glasses and he is happy with all the details in life he can now enjoy. I'm happy for him too!
Love my Maxers!
PS. Max is currently obsessed with these fidget spinners. He got 4 for his birthday; 3 are broken; this is a new one I bought him as a consolation. I wonder how long this phase will last? This too shall pass.... this too shall pass.
He kept asking when they would arrive. I on the other hand was not looking forward to him getting the glasses. I was not looking forward to the way they change my sweet boy's face. Glasses age a person and make a person look different to me.
When I got the call they were in I told Max they were in and we could go pick them up sometime. He asked if we could go that day. I asked him why he was so anxious to get them. His response was so innocent, sweet and pure, "Mommy, I know I can see better and I want to be able to do that. That's why I want my glasses."
Okay then, let's go get them. With that response, I couldn't delay. We took a family journey to get him his new specs! He was so excited. I loved watching him trying them on for the first time. The look in his eyes as he enjoys this new vision is really awesome. He started to have some fun with them as well. About a week later, he's now getting mostly adjusted. We have some organization with the glasses and he is happy with all the details in life he can now enjoy. I'm happy for him too!
Love my Maxers!
PS. Max is currently obsessed with these fidget spinners. He got 4 for his birthday; 3 are broken; this is a new one I bought him as a consolation. I wonder how long this phase will last? This too shall pass.... this too shall pass.
Monday, June 19, 2017
Max is Seven!
My boy turned 7 already. What happened to that snugly, sweet little boy of mine I left home when I went to the hospital to have his baby sister 4 years ago? He's still here, but he's had to grow into an independent middle child. He's thoughtful and he loves getting attention from adults, especially Mommy and Daddy. He is creative. He builds not only Legos very well, but he also makes some pretty awesome 3 D art and other things like forts, block castles and generally anything creative he can think to do with stuff lying around the house. He loves to laugh and have a good time. He tries to make almost everything a joke. His best friend in class is John. His other best friend is across the street, Henry. He's an amazing brother to both his sisters; he would do anything for either of them. He tries hard to please his parents. He has a true heart of gold. He wouldn't hurt a sole. He's amazing. He's still my snugly sweet little boy, but he just keeps growing!
To celebrate Max's birthday we had a nice long weekend. His actually birthday was on a Friday. We enjoyed the day as a family. He got lots of presents that he wanted. He enjoyed playing with them and putting new legos together. On Saturday we had his friend party at Adventure Park. Several school buddies showed up as did some of his cousins. We spent over 3 hours there and everyone really had a great time. Max enjoyed time with each person. He was even brave enough to ride the roller coaster! What a fun day and weekend for Max!
To celebrate Max's birthday we had a nice long weekend. His actually birthday was on a Friday. We enjoyed the day as a family. He got lots of presents that he wanted. He enjoyed playing with them and putting new legos together. On Saturday we had his friend party at Adventure Park. Several school buddies showed up as did some of his cousins. We spent over 3 hours there and everyone really had a great time. Max enjoyed time with each person. He was even brave enough to ride the roller coaster! What a fun day and weekend for Max!
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| Happy boy with a pile of presents! |
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| MMMMMM good! and good looking too :-) |
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| Laser Tag was the best! |
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| Pizza Time |
Sunday, June 4, 2017
Letters from Church
Clair's been to church a few times the past month. Each time she writes a letter to either Daddy or Mommy. She is so proud of these letters. I took a picture of mine tonight. Her printing is really amazing for being just 4.
Her other favorite thing to do is to site and flip through the hymnal reading the pages.
She's wise beyond her years :-)
Saturday, June 3, 2017
Clair Vonita completes 3 year old preschool
Last week Clair completed her school. She loves school and would like to go every day. She was quite sick early in the week with Strep Throat; we were lucky to get her well enough to make the last day of school. She was glad to see her friends and Miss Melissa. She really loved Miss Melissa this year and I think Miss Melissa really appreciated the uniqueness's of Clair. My girl is a whirlwind. She has ideas and thoughts that are pretty advanced for her age and for some this would be too much. She's not really a conformist. She is going to do what she wants and stretch others to find a way to play too. She loves to play pretend and Miss Melissa says her stories are so elaborate for her age. I surely agree.
Her year end report card showed she has mastered all the skills. In pre-k I want her to work on being able to play with the other kids and have a good friend. She is more interested in her games and her ways then blending in with the other kids. I'm glad she's a girl who knows what she wants. I know that by the time she gets to PreK she is going to be so ready. She can read a few works and do basic math already. She writes very well and can draw elaborate people. She amazes me for a just turned 4 year old.
This summer I have a feeling we will master a bike without training wheels and swimming. She keeps growing, but still likes her Mommy to start the day snuggling her. I wonder how long that will go on. Yesterday morning she says, "I can't start my day without snuggles from Mommy." She knows all the right things to say to get what she wants. That is for sure!
Her year end report card showed she has mastered all the skills. In pre-k I want her to work on being able to play with the other kids and have a good friend. She is more interested in her games and her ways then blending in with the other kids. I'm glad she's a girl who knows what she wants. I know that by the time she gets to PreK she is going to be so ready. She can read a few works and do basic math already. She writes very well and can draw elaborate people. She amazes me for a just turned 4 year old.
This summer I have a feeling we will master a bike without training wheels and swimming. She keeps growing, but still likes her Mommy to start the day snuggling her. I wonder how long that will go on. Yesterday morning she says, "I can't start my day without snuggles from Mommy." She knows all the right things to say to get what she wants. That is for sure!
A relaxing Birthday for Mommy
The kids seemed to really appreciate and enjoy celebrating their Mommy right now. They love being helpful and making me art projects, not to mention having a good reason for a few extra treats. My birthday felt like a continuation of Mother's Day.
Ellie was up early. She visited me while I was trying to wake and told me to stay in bed and rest, she would get Clair and Max up for breakfast. I did take her up on that for about 10 minutes, but it was a school day. The two girls worked well together. I only had to intervene when I was listening to them talk about bringing me breakfast in bed. That was sweat, but we didn't have time for that to happen and get them to school on time.
I had the day off work. I spent extra time snuggling Clair and reading to her in the morning. After that I had a chance to exercise to start the day off right. I then spent my mid day with my Mom. We got pedicures, had lunch, went to Starbucks and ran a few errands. I ended the afternoon with a nice massage before heading home for an evening dinner out at the local, followed by gifts and my cookie cake that I had enjoyed making myself.
The day was very relaxing. The weather was gorgeous. The kids enjoyed celebrating with me. I am a lucky 41 year old Mommy of three.You never know where life will take you when you are older. I'm glad for what I have right now.
Ellie was up early. She visited me while I was trying to wake and told me to stay in bed and rest, she would get Clair and Max up for breakfast. I did take her up on that for about 10 minutes, but it was a school day. The two girls worked well together. I only had to intervene when I was listening to them talk about bringing me breakfast in bed. That was sweat, but we didn't have time for that to happen and get them to school on time.
I had the day off work. I spent extra time snuggling Clair and reading to her in the morning. After that I had a chance to exercise to start the day off right. I then spent my mid day with my Mom. We got pedicures, had lunch, went to Starbucks and ran a few errands. I ended the afternoon with a nice massage before heading home for an evening dinner out at the local, followed by gifts and my cookie cake that I had enjoyed making myself.
The day was very relaxing. The weather was gorgeous. The kids enjoyed celebrating with me. I am a lucky 41 year old Mommy of three.You never know where life will take you when you are older. I'm glad for what I have right now.
Tuesday, May 30, 2017
Memorial Day Fun
On Memorial Day I hung out with the kids and David worked. We had a relaxing day. We saw the Smurfs meeting in the theater in the morning. We had lunch out and then headed home. The kids decided it would be fun to wash Big Red. So I decided to take them up on it.
The girls had fun. Max wasn't really that interested and ran away to play with the neighbor instead. Ellie and Clair tried hard to help and then continued to play in the water for about an hour after.
Clair enjoyed trying the new home made ice pops, shades and all!
It was a relaxing afternoon and I was thankful to relax with the kids and enjoy a taste of summer with their smiles.
They were not ready for school Tuesday morning. They are ready for summer schedules, summer days, and lazy mornings!
The girls had fun. Max wasn't really that interested and ran away to play with the neighbor instead. Ellie and Clair tried hard to help and then continued to play in the water for about an hour after.
Clair enjoyed trying the new home made ice pops, shades and all!
It was a relaxing afternoon and I was thankful to relax with the kids and enjoy a taste of summer with their smiles.
They were not ready for school Tuesday morning. They are ready for summer schedules, summer days, and lazy mornings!
Sunday, May 28, 2017
First Communion
This past weekend Ellie celebrated another milestone of growing up; she had her first communion.
Ellie was proud of this grown up experience. We were proud of her. She was very excited to go back for communion the following week. A sign of growing up.
Ellie was proud of this grown up experience. We were proud of her. She was very excited to go back for communion the following week. A sign of growing up.
Sunday, May 21, 2017
Another softball season
Three years ago I embarked on a journey with Ellie that I could not have ever imagined. She signed up for softball with Erika, at the urging of Katie. And in that, I became an assistant coach. I wasn't a stellar athlete, but I do love sports. Teaching young kids to do anything is hard for me. I'm not a patient women, but the girls have taught me a lot over the years. I have also learned a great deal from a couple coaches along the way as well. To be a good coach, is sort of like being a good manager, you don't have to be awesome at the task. Instead, you have to help others do better and improve themselves. Over the 6 seasons of softball I have met dozens of girls. I have had my favorites. I especially enjoy the ones who truly love playing the sport and whose parents have raised them to be coach-able. They listen. They try hard. They bring a positive attitude to the practices and games. They cheer on their team mates.
I've read reminders to parents on facebook and such that your child's performance on the field isn't a reflection of you as a person, but whether your child is coach-able, has a positive attitude, encourages their team mates and tries their best most of the time, this is a reflection of your parenting, your family values and who you really are. I believe this to be so true.
I will do my best to teach these things to my kids. This experience has helped me with parenting, I hope.
Ellie says she will not play again in the fall. I'm sad to see this journey coming to an end. I truly do love being on the softball field, being outside in the fresh air. I love the sound of the ball hitting the sweat-spot of the bat and I love the grin on the face of a young player when they master a skill and show that in a game with an amazing catch or great hit. The smiles are worth it!
Ellie can play ball when she wants. She is an athlete with great hand eye coordination, speed, and capability. I hope that she continues to enjoy sports and a healthy life style that includes being active for her whole life. I hope that she has some positive memories of our time together on the softball field. I am grateful to have learned that stepping up to be a coach doesn't mean you are the best player, it just means you are willing to do your best and try to help the kids succeed. We all have something we can teach the kids. I believe it takes a village. I am truly thankful for the supportive parents along this journey that have made things work, as they step in for concession, umpiring, assistant coaching, car pool, organizing the bench and all other activities along the way.
This has been fun. I hope to get a chance to do it again sometime.
I've read reminders to parents on facebook and such that your child's performance on the field isn't a reflection of you as a person, but whether your child is coach-able, has a positive attitude, encourages their team mates and tries their best most of the time, this is a reflection of your parenting, your family values and who you really are. I believe this to be so true.
I will do my best to teach these things to my kids. This experience has helped me with parenting, I hope.
Ellie says she will not play again in the fall. I'm sad to see this journey coming to an end. I truly do love being on the softball field, being outside in the fresh air. I love the sound of the ball hitting the sweat-spot of the bat and I love the grin on the face of a young player when they master a skill and show that in a game with an amazing catch or great hit. The smiles are worth it!
Ellie can play ball when she wants. She is an athlete with great hand eye coordination, speed, and capability. I hope that she continues to enjoy sports and a healthy life style that includes being active for her whole life. I hope that she has some positive memories of our time together on the softball field. I am grateful to have learned that stepping up to be a coach doesn't mean you are the best player, it just means you are willing to do your best and try to help the kids succeed. We all have something we can teach the kids. I believe it takes a village. I am truly thankful for the supportive parents along this journey that have made things work, as they step in for concession, umpiring, assistant coaching, car pool, organizing the bench and all other activities along the way.
This has been fun. I hope to get a chance to do it again sometime.
Mother's day
This mother days, I stayed in bed and the kids prepared a lovely breakfast in bed. Ellie took my order the night before and they prepared exactly what I asked for, plus a little chocolate bar treat on the side. They were so excited to celebrate a special day for me. They brought me breakfast and loads of presents and home made cards. They were adorable and sweet. I love these kids so much. They each took time to make something special. I love their home made cards, stories, and things about Mommy. Max even made me a container of "paper" recess peanut butter cups. Too cute!
The day was relaxing. I got to hang out at home with them, we played in the afternoon, and I made some dinner in the evening. I was treated quite well by everyone and truly enjoyed a beautiful day. Being a mom is awesome. Being the Mom to Max, Ellie and Clair is all I could ask for in my life.
The day was relaxing. I got to hang out at home with them, we played in the afternoon, and I made some dinner in the evening. I was treated quite well by everyone and truly enjoyed a beautiful day. Being a mom is awesome. Being the Mom to Max, Ellie and Clair is all I could ask for in my life.
Monday, May 15, 2017
Mother's Day Eve Family Adventure
Saturday morning we woke up and decided to take a family adventure into Washington DC. This was spurred to find the a pretzel bakery we saw Friday night on TV. We decided to make a day trip out of it and see what happens! It was really a great day.
Stop one, off to Washington's up and transformed South East DC to try the new pretzel bakery. It was packed and it was delicious. We tried everything - pretzels, hot dogs, breakfast sandwiches, a calzone and the cinnamon pretzel treats! Then we explored the nearby Eastern Market where we tried some local foods and bought some presents.
Next, we decided to head towards the malls and the monuments. We passed by the capital and decided to get out and check out the National Conservatory. It's a great time to of year for the blooming flowers and gardens. I got a lot of great pictures here and the kids enjoyed the little treasures in the garden.
After the gardens, we decided we would try to visit the space museum for a couple hours. The kids hadn't been there for a few years. We walked around for about an hour. Everyone was quite tired.
We decided to head home via Georgetown and have some dinner there .I found an Irish Pub I had always wanted to try. So we stopped for dinner and ended with some fancy cupcakes.
As we headed home and I pointed out the beautiful sunset, Clair says, "I don't want to go home. I want to stay here a bit longer." I asked her what else there was to do and she wasn't sure, she just didn't want the adventure to end. I explained it was already bedtime and she relaxed and enjoyed the ride home.
Clair only wished the day ended at a hotel. That was her goal! My girl likes to travel and explore. She has that from both David and me.
Stop one, off to Washington's up and transformed South East DC to try the new pretzel bakery. It was packed and it was delicious. We tried everything - pretzels, hot dogs, breakfast sandwiches, a calzone and the cinnamon pretzel treats! Then we explored the nearby Eastern Market where we tried some local foods and bought some presents.
Next, we decided to head towards the malls and the monuments. We passed by the capital and decided to get out and check out the National Conservatory. It's a great time to of year for the blooming flowers and gardens. I got a lot of great pictures here and the kids enjoyed the little treasures in the garden.
After the gardens, we decided we would try to visit the space museum for a couple hours. The kids hadn't been there for a few years. We walked around for about an hour. Everyone was quite tired.
We decided to head home via Georgetown and have some dinner there .I found an Irish Pub I had always wanted to try. So we stopped for dinner and ended with some fancy cupcakes.
As we headed home and I pointed out the beautiful sunset, Clair says, "I don't want to go home. I want to stay here a bit longer." I asked her what else there was to do and she wasn't sure, she just didn't want the adventure to end. I explained it was already bedtime and she relaxed and enjoyed the ride home.
Clair only wished the day ended at a hotel. That was her goal! My girl likes to travel and explore. She has that from both David and me.
Monday, April 24, 2017
Ninja Go
I must take note of Max's latest obsession which shows no sign of letting up. He's fascinated with Ninjas. Ninja Lego! Ninja books! Ninja weapon building! Ninja Movies! Ninja story writing! Ninja comic books! Ninja stories! Playing Ninja with Henry! It's a Ninja world he lives in. He talks about these things like they truly happened to him in real life.
This is the hardest obsession for me to get into. The only books he will now lay with me to read are these Ninja books. I want to spend this time with him and I try. But it's 20 minutes of reading comics, with small print, and strange words that I always say wrong (according to Max and the Movies).
But I love my boy. Ninja makes him happy!
Ninja GO! lol
This is the hardest obsession for me to get into. The only books he will now lay with me to read are these Ninja books. I want to spend this time with him and I try. But it's 20 minutes of reading comics, with small print, and strange words that I always say wrong (according to Max and the Movies).
But I love my boy. Ninja makes him happy!
Ninja GO! lol
Clair's fourth birthday
So Clair woke up in bed with Mommy and Daddy on her fourth birthday just like she wanted. She woke up early and we snuggled before she demanded some TV time. After TV time, it was presents time, even before breakfast, just like her very own Christmas.
She liked the decorations we put up and she loved her balloons from Grannie.
She had only a few presents because her big present from us was the trampoline in our back yard which she loves to death. She enjoyed those presents she did receive - a name puzzle, Peppa wallet, Peppa stamps, markers, chalk, homemade jewelry from her sister, and a new book. As we see, it's a Peppa theme.
She asked for Chocolate Chip Pancakes for breakfast and I indulged. They scarfed them down so fast!
The morning was spent playing. Ellie created a birthday party in her room for her and Clair with sings, songs, tea and all Clair's new presents. It was cute. They enjoyed this time together.
During the afternoon Clair and Mommy got to spend a lot of time together. We played some pretend in the living room, went for a walk outside, played outside on the trampoline and playground, and just enjoyed some time together. It was a pretty day.
Dinner was as Clair wanted - pizza. Mommy snuck in a side of green smoothie and then we finished dinner off with Clair's Peppa Chocolate Chip Cookie cake that Grannie made. It was beautiful and delicious!
Clair had a great day and we had a nice relaxing weekend. Love my little beautiful big girl. She's full of energy, determination, creativity, she's smart, she is busy and she can be loads of fun to hang out with. And, boy, does my girl love to cuddle!
She liked the decorations we put up and she loved her balloons from Grannie.
She had only a few presents because her big present from us was the trampoline in our back yard which she loves to death. She enjoyed those presents she did receive - a name puzzle, Peppa wallet, Peppa stamps, markers, chalk, homemade jewelry from her sister, and a new book. As we see, it's a Peppa theme.
She asked for Chocolate Chip Pancakes for breakfast and I indulged. They scarfed them down so fast!
The morning was spent playing. Ellie created a birthday party in her room for her and Clair with sings, songs, tea and all Clair's new presents. It was cute. They enjoyed this time together.
During the afternoon Clair and Mommy got to spend a lot of time together. We played some pretend in the living room, went for a walk outside, played outside on the trampoline and playground, and just enjoyed some time together. It was a pretty day.
Dinner was as Clair wanted - pizza. Mommy snuck in a side of green smoothie and then we finished dinner off with Clair's Peppa Chocolate Chip Cookie cake that Grannie made. It was beautiful and delicious!
Clair had a great day and we had a nice relaxing weekend. Love my little beautiful big girl. She's full of energy, determination, creativity, she's smart, she is busy and she can be loads of fun to hang out with. And, boy, does my girl love to cuddle!
Saturday, April 22, 2017
Clair is turning 4
Today we celebrated Clair's 4th birthday having a party at the local bounce house with friends from school, neighbors, and some family. This day was all planned by Clair. She anticipated it for many months. She picked the theme, the place, the people, helped with the gift bags and really had more expectations about the day then I have experienced previously with my kiddos.
The party went very well, despite having several friends unable to attend. There were enough people there to make it feel big and busy. I loved watching her face when everyone sung Happy Birthday to her. She enjoyed it, but didn't smile. I think she was slightly uncomfortable and happy at the same time. The anticipation of the day was felt in that moment. She smiled when it was all done and she blew out her candle.
She got nice presents and had lots of fun with her friends. She especially enjoyed having her friend Kara from the neighborhood there. The big kids had fun with Henry, Elizabeth and cousins. It was a good day.
We had a nice dinner in the evening and watched Beauty and the Beast with the kids before bed. Clair was exhausted. She was beet red in the face and totally sweaty from her bounce time. It was a long day. As David tried to tuck her into bed she proclaimed she doesn't want to turn four. Nearly in tears, she explained to me that she doesn't want to turn four so that I can still carry her and hold her. She wants to stay three forever! (Be still my heart!)
I hugged her tight and smiled. I told her I promised to hold her and carry her while she was four as well. That proclamation held off the tears and then she said she needed to sleep with Mommy and Daddy tonight. So, she's having what she calls a Birthday Sleepover. The women knows what she wants and is pretty darn good at getting what she wants from the world, even her Mommy.
Love my girl. The world awaits Clair and she is coming! She's amazing, determined, smart, loving, emotional and very vocal! I love watching her grow and seeing the person she is becoming.
The party went very well, despite having several friends unable to attend. There were enough people there to make it feel big and busy. I loved watching her face when everyone sung Happy Birthday to her. She enjoyed it, but didn't smile. I think she was slightly uncomfortable and happy at the same time. The anticipation of the day was felt in that moment. She smiled when it was all done and she blew out her candle.
She got nice presents and had lots of fun with her friends. She especially enjoyed having her friend Kara from the neighborhood there. The big kids had fun with Henry, Elizabeth and cousins. It was a good day.
We had a nice dinner in the evening and watched Beauty and the Beast with the kids before bed. Clair was exhausted. She was beet red in the face and totally sweaty from her bounce time. It was a long day. As David tried to tuck her into bed she proclaimed she doesn't want to turn four. Nearly in tears, she explained to me that she doesn't want to turn four so that I can still carry her and hold her. She wants to stay three forever! (Be still my heart!)
I hugged her tight and smiled. I told her I promised to hold her and carry her while she was four as well. That proclamation held off the tears and then she said she needed to sleep with Mommy and Daddy tonight. So, she's having what she calls a Birthday Sleepover. The women knows what she wants and is pretty darn good at getting what she wants from the world, even her Mommy.
Love my girl. The world awaits Clair and she is coming! She's amazing, determined, smart, loving, emotional and very vocal! I love watching her grow and seeing the person she is becoming.
Wednesday, March 29, 2017
Mommy and daughter weekend at the beach with friends
This past weekend Ellie and I went away with several mom's and their 3rd graders for a weekend at the beach. This was a new adventure for both of us. We were both a little nervous. We tried to go into it without a lot of expectations and that worked out great. I think we both really had a nice time. We got to know some friends and neighbors better and had fun with each other as well. It was pretty relaxing.
The girls really enjoyed the fun times together.
The moms also enjoyed some relaxation in the sun, on the boardwalk, at dinner, games, and even wrapping up the night with a big puzzle.
I appreciate the time together with Ellie and new friends. It was great to have this opportunity. I don't prioritize friendship enough with everything else at this stage of life. I am very thankful for it though.
The girls really enjoyed the fun times together.
The moms also enjoyed some relaxation in the sun, on the boardwalk, at dinner, games, and even wrapping up the night with a big puzzle.
I appreciate the time together with Ellie and new friends. It was great to have this opportunity. I don't prioritize friendship enough with everything else at this stage of life. I am very thankful for it though.
Sunday, March 19, 2017
Observations from St Patrick's Day Adventure in NYC with the family.
It was a great trip. The kinds enjoyed it. I call it a successful Family Adventure. Here's my top 10:
1- the parade is all day long. Anyone can join the
parade. The best part of the Irish st Patrick's day parade is at the end when
the counties of Ireland come through with their people, their colors and their
banners. It was a ride around Ireland, full of memories and smiles for me. Cute
seeing the families and little kids enjoying being in the parade even though
they had gone 40 blocks!
2- the subway is still the kids favorite
3- I love watching Clair try to engage strangers in
important conversation such as her age and what we've done all day long. It's
funny because NYC subway etiquette is don't engage anyone. My girl doesn't see
it and doesn't believe it. People smile and her and love her energy and her
smile. I love this!
4- Ellie really enjoyed the parade with me. I think it
was and example of how she wanted to enjoy it with me because I was. I think I
might have set a good example today.
5- I think I was more laid back today and I hope the kids
saw it.
6- I had to tell Ellie not to listen to things that she
shouldn't hear, such as curse words. At one point she was walking with David
and I hear her rattling off the sins of manhattan to David as if it's
confession. "Daddy, today I hear 2 a word, 3 f words, and saw some mans
butt because he didn't have his pants up and he didn't even care. I wish the
police would have gotten him." Gosh
I love this innocence.
6- max likes to laugh. This isn't news. He wants a good
laugh. Oh how my boy will fit in at these Irish pubs one day soon.
7- we visited no less then 10 distinct bathrooms and
several multiple times. We didn't go 30 minutes between visits. Yet, still,
something was achieved and memories were made.
8- I said the phrases "Max, puddle!" "Max
walk on the left." "Max watch where you are going." And
"max, stop spinning" at least every minute All Day Long! By golly we kept him alive and his feet dry!
It was a miracle.
9- kids didn't enjoy the taxi as much as the train. They
don't understand traffic. They are blessed by country living.
10- candy. It pleases kids. Always! A visit to Dylan's
Candy shop was the highlight of the day to them.
David is now out having a few drinks to celebrate. I'm in
bed. No cider for me. The upper east has been good to us as a family today. But
it's foreign territory. This is why there was no cider to be found. It must be.
Here's to a dry st Patrick's day where I am not pregnant. I don't think I've
had one of them in 20 years.
Slante!
Monday, March 13, 2017
There's a fine line between creativity and mess
I often can't determine the difference between mess versus childhood creativity. I would prefer a magazine perfect house all the time. But I have 3 kids, and a husband, and let's face it, myself that live here. So this isn't possible. I must accept something less. The struggle is real and daily, as to what's a mess and what's allowed as part of growing up for my kiddos.
Sunday night I usually walk around the main floor and try to ready it for the week. I try to have it someone cleaned up for when Sarah arrives on Monday mornings. Usually, there is something to clean up, but sometimes it's worse then others. As I stood in the living room aka playroom last night, I glared at this structure thinking what a mess.
Then, I remembered Max's tour he gave me earlier in the day. He was so proud of this fort. "This is a multi floor fort Mommy, it has a basement Look!" Clair has a bedroom in the basement of the fort. Max has his own room on the main floor, and Ellie has her own room, separately as well. Max was so proud. He built this. He tried to urge his sisters to hangout and play with him in this latest and greatest masterpiece. He would give them anything to play in his space with him.
Max is physical. He is creative. This fort is his kind of thing!
Is it a mess or creativity? Last night I decided it was more creativity then mess, and I left it up for another day. Each incident is a struggle, sometimes the kids lose and I make them "Clean Up this Mess!" Last night, I was able to step back and enjoy it. I imagine in about 15 years, I'll be longing for the days of forts to clean up in the living room.
Sunday night I usually walk around the main floor and try to ready it for the week. I try to have it someone cleaned up for when Sarah arrives on Monday mornings. Usually, there is something to clean up, but sometimes it's worse then others. As I stood in the living room aka playroom last night, I glared at this structure thinking what a mess.
Then, I remembered Max's tour he gave me earlier in the day. He was so proud of this fort. "This is a multi floor fort Mommy, it has a basement Look!" Clair has a bedroom in the basement of the fort. Max has his own room on the main floor, and Ellie has her own room, separately as well. Max was so proud. He built this. He tried to urge his sisters to hangout and play with him in this latest and greatest masterpiece. He would give them anything to play in his space with him.
Max is physical. He is creative. This fort is his kind of thing!
Is it a mess or creativity? Last night I decided it was more creativity then mess, and I left it up for another day. Each incident is a struggle, sometimes the kids lose and I make them "Clean Up this Mess!" Last night, I was able to step back and enjoy it. I imagine in about 15 years, I'll be longing for the days of forts to clean up in the living room.
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